I don’t want to say what I’ll regret later

 

There’s no point in talking about it

 

They just won’t understand.

 

 

 

There are different ‘reasons’ we prefer to keep quiet over something that actually bothers us - to just let it pass and forget about it. Sometimes, it could be a favour we feel we’re doing to the other person by simply overlooking their actions or words (sometimes their silence or inactions).

 

 

You could be right, and your reasons fully justified but not expressing your emotions has a lot of physically noticeable implications. Irritation, stress and even ill-health are linked to not properly engaging how you feel.

 

Most of all that is produced in the human body are either used or expelled: from hormones and cells to waste products. Same with emotions, keeping them locked up is not healthy for you.

 

 

WHY IS IT UNHEALTHY?

 

The issue doesn’t go away

 

 

 

 

 

Pretty obvious right?

 

Ignoring something doesn’t mean it is no longer there. You’re not an ostrich, and even if you were, you’d still have to unbury your head at some point to actually deal with it.

While it seems like conserving energy, it really costs same to avoid addressing an issue or facing a problem.

 

 

Your emotions can spill over

 

What happens when you shake a bottle of soda?

The pressure increases and depending on certain factors, it could burst open.

 

Never thought people and soda would have so much in common

 

When you bottle up your emotions - negative ones especially, you’ll either finally explode on someone or pour a bit of it on many people. The problem with the latter is that you might not have the slightest idea that you’re doing it. And the problem with both is that the people involved might not have anything to do with your state.

 

No matter how well you think you have shut it away, you’re only piling other emotions on each other till they all come crashing down on you and out to others.

 

Don’t bottle till you burst, because it won’t really be refreshing.

 

 

Facing them can be helpful

 

 

 

Avoiding how you feel about something takes away the big possibility that the situation can be helped at that moment. For example, deciding not to try to explain why you did something that someone has a problem with because ‘they just won’t understand’,  is actually depriving you of the chance to be reasoned with and understood.

 

Relationships; personal, friendly, romantic or family, are all adversely affected by turning away from issues.

 

 

 

WHAT COULD HELP?

 

Know the reasons

Why are you letting it be? Is it because you’re not comfortable with expressing displeasure? Or that it’s ‘not your thing’? Or is it what is best at the moment (and it definitely can be)?

 

 

Know your emotions

What are you actually feeling? Angry, hurt, shy, tired et cetera. Knowing your emotions can be an eye opener to the real reason why you want to avoid or face something. The mind can be deceitful.

 

 

 

Talk

Aside from people you trust and that are reliable, there’s always professional help. You don’t have to be mentally unstable to need help.

 

 

Do you like to just avoid issues or are you a no-nonsense person? How do you react and how do you feel others should too? Are there any other ways that could help?

 

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